The Evolution of Standing In Truth

A daily reflection… For a very long time I felt like I was a shadow watching myself sift through life trying to figure out how to tell myself what my truth was or felt like. Or how to stand firm in that truth without regret or feeling abandon.  Over the last several years I have started showing up for myself.  It took nearly 40 years but no one said it was an overnight achievement. It’s a process.

I wrote a book, working on another one, I am going through some exciting career changes, I got married a little over a month ago and my daughter moved into her first apartment earlier this month.  The life. Our life. It’s ever so imperfect and yet so fruitful.

People and relationships can paralyze you to speak and live your truth. For those who still struggle with living your truth, I challenge you to look closer at your interpersonal relationships, friendships, family and work-life. Start there. That is real the real work begins. Think about the people you would want to attend your wedding or any major life event. Do they embody the truth that feels authentic and important to you?

There have been several people in my life, past relationships and friendships where they were not the right ingredient for my life recipe. However, they were necessary for me to grow and end up in this place of knowing what I want, deserve and being boldly unapologetic about it. It is amazing when you can step away, take care of yourself and really see that shift as a positive. Many of those people and relationships limited my ability to be present in the soul of my truth.

The people we encounter are necessary. The challenges that we face in life are necessary. It is in those interactions that open up room for growth. The universe provides you with lenses to see out of. If you choose to turn the other way and avoid looking, do not be surprised when the outcome is not what you want.

Living in this truth has meant letting go of friendships that were one-sided. Not allowing myself to sit on the sidelines of a friendship only to serve the other persons needs and wants. Relationships require effort, consistency and should be a two-way street. Standing in this truth has allowed me to forgive and move on. It has allowed me to love deeper and stronger. It has allowed me not to shrink in my chair because I may be afraid to speak up in fear of causing tension. Resulting in drowning out my own voice. We can share compassion and disagree with respect to all feelings. But first, we must be open. So when we reflect on our truth much of the above should be on our list.

So, today I am living fearlessly in that truth because my intention is my super power.

As I continue living my truth newly married  to the love of my life. The person who  embodies everything healthy about a partnership. I relish in the possibility that the lens I continue to look through feel less foggy as the truth is very friendly and I am basking in it.



You Reminded Me To Continue Believing - Thank you Tribe #FillYourTank

Last Saturday night the room was filled with incredible people. Each person has/had a story that was not spoken but I felt it. Just know, your story and who you are matter. You did not go unnoticed. Each person had genuine interest in the mission and story behind #FillYourTank. They showed up in support that I often forget is still around. Blissfully authentic support without an agenda to be anything other than ready to support the welcomed wild ride you are on.

“ I was so pumped to attend a book launch for my client-turned-friend last night in Seattle. This view fits the mood of the evening: “Your attitude determines your altitude” - a quote right out of her book.” - Caption and photo by Jinger Hendricks

“ I was so pumped to attend a book launch for my client-turned-friend last night in Seattle. This view fits the mood of the evening: “Your attitude determines your altitude” - a quote right out of her book.” - Caption and photo by Jinger Hendricks

Yesterday and today I am trying to replay the evening back. You know how that goes? We try to remember all the things or wish we had said this or that. Give more hugs or speak to another person a little longer. I’ve battled with this for as long as I can remember. The feeling of guilt that I did not personally spend time with every single person or make sure I thanked them individually. So why do I tell others who feel this way it’s OK, and that people understand. They are just happy to be there supporting you. Yet I find I beat myself up over and over about this. Clearly I need to take my own advice!

A few text trickled in yesterday sharing how much they enjoyed the event and were moved by my words or the shared empowering words about me. Many shared their excitement to move in the direction of filling their tanks, share with their kids, friends and family.

Some post were shared via social media reflecting back on an inspiring night and the breathtaking view of the Seattle skyline that surrounded this incredible #FillYourTank tribe.

What I do know is, not everything I wanted to say left my mouth. I am in awe at the beautiful souls who showed up March 2, 2019 for the launch of my first book. When I reflect back to that night, my heart skips a beat as if I just had my first kiss. I am covered in goosebumps because I realized I was not waking up from a dream. I am living my dreams. You, my #FillYourTank tribe reminded me to believe in my little girl dreams again. Being a writer and writing just for me. Not for notoriety but to pour love back into hearts and the community. To have fun with it. To challenge people to think and rise to the occasion of being the best version of themselves possible.

So to those of you who spent your Saturday night with me and a room full of smiling hearts to fully launch this baby into the world by showing up as you are, THANK YOU!!

A bursting heart of love and gratitude for you all!

Xo - LH

Photo taken by: Marisa Baysa

Photo taken by: Marisa Baysa